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Interview Same-Sex Couple: Patricia+Wiphasiri

Wonders & Weddings created a Mulan-inspired wedding styled shoot together with LGBTQ+ friendly vendors. This shoot represents the simple, non-religious ceremony for same-sex couple weddings. We combine the traditional gift-giving tradition with a modern twist, while preserving the meaningful celebration that is the heart of this humanist wedding.  

Our team and Wonders & Weddings want to show our supports and empower the couples in the LGBTQ+ community. We want you to know that your dream wedding can come true. And we will provide you with gender-neutral ceremony and inclusive team members. Patricia (Pat) and Wiphasiri (Job) will be sharing their experiences as the brides of this styled shoot and their thoughts on equal marriage law in Thailand.

Sharing Experiences from the Shoot

Patricia: This is a new experience for me and it’s so much fun! I got excited since the first time I talked to our wedding planner, Wannida, and listened to the concept. Then I got even more excited. This is my preferred wedding concept because it focuses on the couple and our true selves. I feel impressed by the dedication of everyone in the team.

Wiphasiri: I never worked in such a shoot before. I felt it was an honor for me that Wonders & Weddings created this shoot. It’s a new challenge to help and contribute to this project. I feel satisfied with everything – the team and the production. And I’m proud to be a part of this styled shoot.

What You Love about This Shoot

Patricia: Wannida arranged for a virtual workshop before the day of the shooting. This explained the concept of humanist wedding and awareness in working with LGBTQ+ couples. And it also helped me get to know the team. So everyone understood their roles and the sequences. We all were happy to help each other out.

Wiphasiri: I like that this shoot resembles the production of the real wedding from the start to the end. I was very happy to learn that the models must be real-life couples. That allows us to join the team. Everyone is professional and dedicated. And we all believe in democracy.

Values in Love and Relationship

Patricia: Understanding and trust.

Wiphasiti: Trust, comfort, and acceptance. Both the good and the bad parts.

Your Thoughts on Having a Wedding

Patricia: Firstly, I saw weddings as celebrations. Secondly, it’s a social announcement that two people decided to spend their lives together. Before, I didn’t want a wedding. But I could see some changes in my opinion. Because if I meet someone I want to be married to, I definitely want to have a wedding!

Wiphasiri: I attended many different weddings with my family before. I didn’t know the couples so well. So they weren’t that special for me. But when I knew one or both of the couples, I’m feeling emotional. I knew a same-sex couple who had their weddings and I thought it was a nice idea. But at that point, I couldn’t truly relate.  Now I though it must be so nice to be married and have a wedding.

Experiences with LGBTQ+ Weddings

Patricia: In my life, I have never attended any LGBTQ+ weddings yet. But I do have friends and people I love who are engaged couples or are planning their weddings. In my opinions, weddings are the celebrations of the couples’ love. It’s the time that people they love, friends, and families, come to congratulate and support them in their weddings. I want the society to accept LGBTQ+ weddings too. I want the society to celebrate all kinds of love and marriage.

What You Hope the Society to Understand

Patricia: Firstly, it’s about the acceptance in our sexuality. We have Pride Month or Coming Out Day, but people still don’t accept us for who we truly are. This isn’t only about the LGBTQ+ community but about every person, every gender. I want us all to have freedom of expressions without being judged. I want the society to step up to this. And accept us as who we are.

Secondly, a same-sex couple is like any other couples. It’s a blessing too that we find the people we love and want to spend our lives with. One of the people I knew has a crush on another person of the same sex. Their friends weren’t happy and supportive. So I hope that one day this will change. And everyone will be happy to celebrate all kinds of love. Because love is love.   

Lastly, it’s about the law. We need the law to be able to live together because it relates to many different aspects of our lives. For example, we need insurances, social security, and proper cares for our sickness or even death. We are humans living on this earth or this country too. LGBTQ+ couples aren’t just two friends living together. If one of us fell sick or passed away, and the other person couldn’t do anything to help, it would cause a tremendous pain.

Wiphasiri: Thai society is still not used to seeing same-sex couples who talk openly about their relationships. It may be because the Asian patriarchal culture we have lived in. Saying men are leaders and women are followers. Or women should get married and men should take care of them. So when coming across a same-sex couple, as two women, in a relationship, people often question how we can take care of each other without men. Nowadays, women can take care ourselves much better than the past. And whether she decides to live alone, or with another woman, we have potentials to live the way we want while taking care of others and contribute to the society too.

Humanist Wedding for Same-Sex Couple

Patricia: I think humanist weddings can greatly support same-sex couples who want to get married. because there are no religious rituals in them. If we truly create the wedding for the couple, people will want to get married more. Many people may want to have a wedding, but they didn’t feel comfortable with the traditions. Humanist weddings will help LGBTQ+ community express their love and their true selves.

Wiphasiri: I think it’s the perfect solution! It’s not only about tradition or religious beliefs. Some religions consider same-sex relationships inappropriate. But humanist weddings can support everyone without limiting them by their genders.

Thoughts on Equal Marriage Law in Thailand

Patricia: I wholeheartedly support the equal marriage law and all legal rights for the LGBTQ+ community. Love and marriages are worth celebrating for me. They are the results of two people who love, support, and decide to live together with each other. LGBTQ+ people are also the citizens of the country. We work and pay taxes like hetero couples, so we should be given the same rights. I want to encourage everyone to support and voice your opinion on “equal marriage law”. It’s the foundational rights we all should have. It’s the step to supporting equality.

Wiphasiri: Only couples who are both transgendered people (Female to Male with Male to Female) can register their marriage. But the law doesn’t recognize their identities. And other LGBTQ+ couples don’t have the same legal rights. If they are sick, they cannot rely on their spouse. It’s a great challenge.

Equal marriage law should support this. Because this is the reality of many people and it’s the fundamental rights, including the rights to making medical decisions. As a doctor, I want to emphasize the importance of this law. Each partner should be able to make the decision for each other. I support equal marriage law that allows spouses to have equal rights and privileges, no matter what their gender identities are.

Planning a Wedding as Same-Sex Couple

We hope this styled shoot will inspire same-sex couples in Thailand and across the globe. And we hope that this will motivate the wedding industry to support equal marriage law and social movement for gender equality.

You can learn more about same-sex weddings at:
Information for LGBTQ+ and same-sex couples
Blog posts on LGBTQ+ weddings
Gallery of this wedding styled shoot

Ready to start planning your same-sex wedding?

List of LGBTQ+ Friendly Vendors Who Create This Styled Shoot

Couple Patricia and Wiphasiri⁠ | Wedding Planner Wonders & Weddings⁠ | Coordinator Nainoi Vorapat | Floral Design Wildflora Studio⁠ | Ceremony Dreamista Studio | Photographer Blanche Gallery | Candid Film Khungee Photography | Dresses Vows by Wasawat⁠ | Shoes Bo & Ob Shoes | Makeup Pare Maneechan and With Love & Makeup | Hair Joe Hair Stylist⁠ | Rentals Studio Tandem | Calligraphy Typer | Candles Billy Billies | Location Red Hall Studio

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