In this blog post, I’d like to share with you an important life event. It’s the inspiring story from one of the many LGBTQ+ couples who led Wonders & Weddings to the wedding business with values. Not just with humanist weddings. But also LGBTQ-inclusive weddings and gender equality.
I was working as a flight attendant when I got a call from the crew control to operate a long flight to New York on 24 June 2017. On the personal note, I have always loved this city since the first time I have seen it on television. Imagine how excited I was to learn that the very day I got to fly there was the day of NYC Pride March!
LGBTQ+ Couples Getting-Together
I wore a comfy yellow summer dress and arrived at 5th Avenue 34th Street around half an hour before the parade started. Both side of the street was already full with hundred thousands of people.
Couples held hands.
Friends laughed and cheered.
Families showed supports.
Out of all the fancy costumes, rainbow pride flags, and millions of colorful balloons. What stuck in my memory about this parade the most was one particular couple in the march.
Two grandpas, walking next to each other on their own with a simple handmade sign, were the two people that changed my life and became my biggest inspirations.
“41 Years! MARRIED in 2003“
Let’s do the math. This was 2017. That means they have been married for 14 years in their 41 years together.
41 – 14 = 27 years living together but not married
How did they wait for goddamn 27 years to get married?
No. Wrong questions.
WHY the f*ck they had to wait for goddamn 27 years?
The answer was easy to think of, yet heartbreaking to experience.
Not because they wanted to. But because the law didn’t allow them.
LGBTQ+ Couples are Still Waiting
If someone tells me I have to wait 27 years before I can get married with the life of your life? I would reply right away with “WHAT?! Why should I?”
Not because I couldn’t imagine myself loving my husband for 27 years more.
But because, as a hetero woman, I have my legal right to get married with the man I love. I never have to wait for the law to say yes to my request. It was already there. When we decided to register our marriage, we booked the date, sent the document, showed up at the city hall, and it’s all done.
These two grandpas, and how many more, have waited 27 damn years to do what I could do in a second. They have loved each other in the way I could only imagine.
And realizing this, as tough as it was, has changed my life.
This picture I took back in 2017 was one of the reasons WHY I founded Wonders & Weddings; WHY I speak out about LGBTQ+ rights openly; WHY I admire blogs like Equally Wed;
and WHY I will not tolerate any gender-biased wedding traditions to take place in the celebrations of what I honor to be the greatest day of true love, respect, and equality that should be given as equal rights by birth but still hasn’t.
Equal Marriage For LGBTQ+ Rights
If you are my LGBTQ+ readers, I want you to know that I support you.
I believe you should have the exact same rights I do, not only about marriage, but also every single aspect in life, from what the law provides to how I get to select my gender in a random survey form that speaks true to who I am.
You can be sure that this is a safe space for you and your partner. A space you can talk, create, and dream your dream wedding.
Because you, too, has the wonderful love and stories worth celebrating. You, too, deserve to live the most beautiful day of your life with the person you love, and those who truly love you.